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On being mixed race (Sir Keith Ajegbo, consultant)
18 August 2007

On Being Mixed race

Posted on: Saturday 18 August 2007

Sir Keith Ajegbo

Sir Keith Ajegbo

The intention of this article is to give a brief history of myself as a mixed race person and to reflect on how I have contextualised myself and my attempts to contextualise being mixed race. It is not based on research evidence but on my continual self reflection on what race means to me.

My story

I was born in 1946 to a Nigerian father and a white mother. They met at church. I don't know much about their feelings for each other but I know they had to get married. My mother came from a working class family, living on a council estate in South East London and my father came from Onitsha in Eastern Nigeria. He had come over to England to study law at an Inn of Court. He had been financed by his village and was expected to return to Nigeria.

My mother dreamed of a world that was not South East London and believed he would take her back to Nigeria.

In fact he left for Nigeria when I was six months old and despite many promises it became clear that she was not going to join him there. She was, therefore, a single mother with a black baby at a time when that was rare.

For her family, my white grandparents, the situation was difficult to deal with. My grandmother liked my father but was fundamentally racist in the way many people were in 1946 and was shocked by having to deal with the social consequences of a black son in law and a half black grandson.

The story could have ended in tragedy but it is important that in this debate about being mixed race it didn't. My career has been successful. I went to Cambridge; have been an acclaimed Headteacher and have recently been knighted for my services to education. What I want to look at is the impact on my thinking and my life of being mixed race.

The wider picture

In moving from the personal to the wider picture it is important not to generalise casually. The spectrum of being mixed race is extremely wide. It is dependent on the particular racial mix, on location and a range of other factors. However a very crucial component to mixed race children belonging and feeling whole has to be the attitude of their parents. My unresearched observation is that if parents are sensitive to their child being mixed race and are prepared to work together on the issues that might arise in terms of identity and belonging then this makes a considerable difference.

I expect it also makes a difference if the family is together and both races are part of that family experience. The biggest psychological issue for me was being part of a white family with very little contact with the black side of my family. While my white family were very good to me they treated me as if I was white but had, rather accidentally, black skin. My grandmother would never allow black people into her house because of the trouble caused by my mother's marriage. I remember my mother telling me to pull my cap on so people couldn't see my hair and crying when my aunt referred to my curly hair. As a result I have always felt an element of being outside both races and of being inauthentic.

My experience as a Headteacher suggested that mixed race sons ( and sometimes daughters) have particular issues of identity and belonging when their family is essentially a white mother. In the inner city cultures of South East London mixed race children are often casually classified as black and, like me, can feel outside two worlds if they do not prove their blackness.

Clearly though other factors also have an influence. There are geographical contexts. It is probably easier to be mixed race in London, which is increasingly multi cultural, than Bradford and other cities where Trevor Phillips has talked of the country 'sleepwalking to segregation.' Nor is it easy to be 'the only black in the village'. One way in which being mixed race has determined my life is that I couldn't move out of London because I imagine I would not feel comfortable.

It is also true that the nature of a person's mixedness make a difference. There are different issues for children of mixed African Caribbean or African and white heritage which is quite common in some urban areas to children of Asian/white heritage.

Class makes a difference. A purely personal observation is seeing working class mixed race pupils moving towards black youth cultures and middle class mixed race pupils moving towards white. In terms of schooling and neighbourhoods working class pupils often come into far greater contact with pupils from other cultures. This is exacerbated by white middle class flight. I have often felt disturbed by TV satires around working class culture that imply a mongrel society. A sketch that sticks in my mind and I found offensive was by Harry Enfield featuring the Slobs in which the fashion for the white girls on the estate was to have a brown baby.

While some aspects of being mixed race are easier as the society becomes more at ease with race and difference, mixed race children are still likely to be at the sharp end of tensions and prejudice. An issue for me, which I expect is still there, is for mixed race children to have to listen to prejudices voiced by one or other of their races against the other one. This can create a real sense of dislocation and being an outsider. One of my great fears as a child, which has recurred through my life, was of a great war between white and black in which I could find no haven on either side.

Multiple identities

There was also the constant re-evaluation of my essential being trapped between the stereotypes of the two races of which I was composed. It was very easy, in the time in which I was brought up, to feel caught between the notion of physical black people and cerebral white. This fuelled from a very early age the desire to be top of the class. But I also toyed with the idea that, although clever, I wasn't supremely clever, like, for example, an astro physicist, because of my blackness.

My outsider experience of society is that there is still deeply entrenched a sense of different attributes for different races and I often wonder if a deep psychological fear of inferiority sometimes stops black boys fulfilling their intellectual potential. In children of different mixes there are different stereotypes and prejudices to contend with.

Nevertheless out of my constant ruminations about race, about belonging and about identity I began, from a very early age, to understand complexity and the notion of multiple identities. Journeying from this sense of outsiderness to finding a place where I could exist with myself took determination and an early understanding of emotional intelligence. From where I stood I always felt I was negotiating my way into understanding how I needed to be and to behave to find my way into societies. I never campaigned because I didn't feel I was black enough or authentic enough to campaign. I created my world by being ultra sensitive to the signals I picked up about how I best place myself.

Leading the way?

An argument I tentatively develop from my experience is that there is no one better placed to understand the infinite complexities of belonging and multiple identity than mixed race people and no one better placed, by developing emotional intelligence, to bridge the gaps between races and cultures and make race irrelevant. The abilities to deal with complexity, subtlety and nuance are qualities we want for all our children.

Mixed race children, properly nurtured, are in a strong position to lead the way. As the headteacher of a multi cultural inner city school I saw being mixed race as a real advantage in understanding how children and parents across the cultures and ethnicities felt about being in that environment. I had spent so long in examining who I am from both black and white perspectives that I felt I could cover many angles.

While developing emotional intelligence by being mixed race is a hard won skill there have in recent years been other easier gains for mixed race children. In terms of fashion and glamour mixed race faces now abound. There seems to be an aesthetic agreement that combining different racial features makes sense. The chances of seeing mixed race people on adverts, on the TV, in premiership football teams has increased enormously and I have found this heartening. There has also been a great deal of public demystification of sexual relationships between different races that were almost seen as shocking not so many years ago.

In a society in which attitudes are changing I see no reason for mixed race children to be stuck in limbo between races. There is clearly, and has been through history, an attraction between people that transcends race and the attitudes of society. As those attitudes change and soften and people move easily about the world there will inevitably be more and more mixed race children. Although the nature of the mix and location will create different challenges they are now recognised as a distinct group.

The acceptable language for defining mixed race has changed from my childhood where I was often called half caste of half breed. Mixed race people excel in a number of fields and I no longer only have Shirley Bassey and the tragic Randolph Turpin in my Hall of Fame. There is now a credible candidate for the democratic nomination for the presidency of the United States, the future Formula 1 world champion, the best golfer in the world, the ninth best tennis player, more premiership footballers and minor celebrities than I can name, the novelist and first class honours Cambridge graduate Zadie Smith and Damon Buffini, the managing partner of Europe's biggest equity firm and one of the most important and richest figures in the City.

Mixed racedness is part of our future. People can succeed against the odds but what mixed race children need in order to take their place in the vanguard are families who give them a real sense of identity and belonging and equip them to negotiate the puzzles ahead.

About the author

Sir Keith Ajegbo is former headteacher at Deptford Green and is now a consultant advising the Department for Children, Schools and Families.

5 Comments
A superbly written piece covering a complex and important issue.
Marc Heritier
10 September 2007


This is the best and most positive thing I've ever read a mixed race person's perspective on being mixed race.

I'm 35, and I've always known my Ghanian father (even though he wasn't a big part of my life after the age of 4). And I have no idea what it was like to be mixed race and grow up in the 1950's.

But what I do identify with is, the drive Sir Keith Ajegbo to be the best at what he does. And I also like the fact he points out mixed race people can have very high emotional intelligence ifproperly nurtured. I think this is an article all mixed race people and black and white parents and family members of mixed race people should read.

I wish I could wright an article as articulate as Sir Keith Ajegbo. But I can't because I'm dyslexic and what I writing tends to ramble on.


Ben S
01 September 2007


I read this article with interest mainly because I have nephews and nieces who are mixed race. Both my wife and I are Londoners of Caribbean origin. My wife's sister is married to a white englishman. Another interest I have in the article is that I attended Spencer Park School in Wandsworth in the seventies and attended Social Studies lessons taught by an inspirational young mixed race teacher whom I have never forgotten - Keith Ajegbo.
Dennis Valentine
28 August 2007


Thanks you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I found you article very interesting and refreshing. There was one thing my mother always said to me when i was growing up in Southern Ireland and which was that people like me 'are the future'.

I should explain that i was born in Dublin in '75 to a white mother from west Belfast and an African-American father. At six months, I was adopted by a white Irish man and white Canadian woman who had three boys of their own. I was raised in a white family in Dublin (my sister though is also adopted and is half Indian and half-Irish but has always ‘passed’ for Spanish or Italian) with no connection to my black half. Being adopted and mixed race meant that at a very young age I knew I was different and knew that I had more than one identity…

My entire life I have had to defend my Irish identity to Irish people mostly; to explain how a mixed race person ended up with an Irish accent and identity. Only last week (aged 32!!) the uncle of my white, Irish boyfriend start petting my curly hair in a pub at home (he meant no harm but he did make me feel like Hottentots Venus – for the umpteenth time!) I often experienced mild (and not so mild) racism from children in the school yard and sports field and grown-ups who should have known better but I shrugged it off (mostly!) and got on with growing up.

It wasn’t till I left Ireland (in my late teens) that I realised that I wasn’t actually black enough (in Ireland I was considered black, not mixed) when in the US I got hassle from darker skinned women and men who thought -for whatever reason- that I thought that I was “better” than them because of my skin tone – this was news to me – this gradation of skin tone… (though of course I knew it came from slavery) but I didn’t actually think that I wouldn’t be accepted by ‘black’ people as not black enough.

At home I would sit in the living rooms of middle-class Dublin listening my friends, or friends’ family discuss black/’different’ people – and it wasn’t pretty and I actually found it very difficult to deal with when people you love, respect and trust say things that instinctively you know is wrong. But being young and unsure it is hard to tackle that kind of insidious racism head on…particularly when it comes from your elders… and you can’t help but get frustrated, not to mention the impact it has on your own self-esteem. And they got away with this cause really I was considered white or at least “raised white” (naturally the insults of Choc-Ice and Bounty Bar were nothing new to me) but why was I considered white? Because i have an education, because I am articulate, because i don’t braid/straighten my hair, because I don’t listen to Hip Hop? It was confusing…

Funnily enough I also used to worry about a “race war” and where i would end up… irrational but nonetheless a real emotion.

I never found my birth father so I have never really connected with that half through him; I never had the chance to have the pride I took in my ethnic origins unconsciously and repeatedly confirmed by my family from that ethnicity.

I am in serious relationship with a white Irish man and he as had to have a crash course in identity politics over the last two years– white people just do not think about race; they don’t have to. We have discussed kids in the future and what they will look like and how he will cope with and learn from his ethnically diverse children; I know for my own experience that all a child really needs is love and a sense of belonging to a family whatever colour that family may be and he worries that he will let them down and I tell him that we will tell them what my mum told me – that they are the future.

Siobhan McKenna
24 August 2007


I read this article with great interest. I am currently working with a mixed raced offender in the CJS and felt I was not adequtely meeting his needs as no work had been done in relation to his identity. Unfortunately he was seperated from his parents at a young age and therefore identity for him has been lost and his experiences have been negative in every way during his life.His mother was white and his father was black but no other information has been made available to us.This article has provided me with some real insight into my clients experiences, they may not mirror your own but some of the thoughts, fears and feelings may be similar. I hope I am now able to have a better understanding and gives me a starting point for further reading. Thankyou.
sarah Jones
22 August 2007


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